What Do Men Want? What Do Men Need?

Before we can begin to set up an All-Inclusive Ministry to Men, you need to know what motivates men. We have found that every man wants three things:

  1. Something to give their lives to that will make a difference; they want their lives to count. In other words, men want to be involved in something bigger than themselves, something that is meaningful. (Cause)
  2. Someone to share their lives with – a life mate, small group, church community, etc. Despite what we are led to believe, men were made for relationships (Companion)
  3. A Personal System that explains why #1 and #2 are so difficult. (Conviction)

This is illustrated in Ecclesiastes 4:8: There was a man all alone; he had neither son nor brother. There was no end to his toil, yet his eyes were not content with his wealth. For whom am I toiling,” he asked, and why am I depriving myself of enjoyment?” This too is meaningless – a miserable business!

What do men need?
The obvious answer is the gospel – the one system that helps men change the core affections of their hearts.

The most important thing we can do is to let men know that there is a system that explains why it is so hard to find happiness in achievement or relationships in this world.

So, what do men need? They need the gospel – the one system that really works! This helps men move from relying on themselves or others to relying on God – which is called discipleship. It is the process of deepening a man’s relationship with God.

The Big Idea:
The greatest gift we can give a man is to help him change the core affections of his heart.